Question:
I am 11 months out and out of control. I can not stop eating.
I can tolerate everything. I have lost a total of 70 lbs and have at least 40 more to go. I am so scared i will not reach goal and even worse gain weight. Why can't i just do it? I know what i am suppose to do, yet i do not. I am faithful to my meds and water. Is the honeymoon stage over? It has been 4 months since the scale moved. — angel4 (posted on March 5, 2008)
March 5, 2008
Sounds like the honeymoon is over and the dreaded will power needs to kick
in. Stay focused, dead set on the 40lb goal and not the scale or the food.
I completely understand food addiction, I am one myself. It can be done.
Don't take your eye off the mark though!! Contact me if you need me!! I
have a great book to recommend.
— bariatricdivalatina
March 5, 2008
I completely understand how you can "tolerate everything", I can
too. It's been that way since I hit stage 3. The thing is, use your tool
and use your head. You CAN do this. You've come entirely too far to look
back and tell yourself anything other than I CAN do this and I WILL do
this. Use adjectives when telling yourself what needs to be done. These
will be the motivating factors to help you stay on track. You can do this.
I'll keep you in my prayers. I truly know how you feel. Email me anytime
for any reason, much success to you, Leslie
— LuvNSummer
March 5, 2008
I kept losing right up till a couple months ago. I am 16 mos out. There
were times that I also, did not lose for weeks at a time. It seemed that
whenever I ate my meals (weighed and measured protien have 3 oz protein at
each meal) and had my snacks the weight loss started up again. Don't forget
your fluids. I was 233 and as of today I am 118. Keep track of what you
are eating. Best of luck...
— niecie54
March 5, 2008
you can do this!! stay focused and if you have lost your focus, get back on
track. go back to the basics and read over your info you got when planning
to have the surgery. there may be small things you have forgotten and
important things you have just let slip. reevaluate your diet and start
writing down things, because sometimes you are just unaware of what you
might be doing wrong and if it's in writing you can see it!! consult with
your surgeon and nutritionist and see what ideas they have. How about your
activity? are you exercising? how much and how often? maybe you need to
increase your exercising or change up your routine a little. these are some
suggestions, good luck and i know you can do it- just remember- you lost 70
lbs so you can loose the other 40 it might just be slower and harder, but
you can do it!!!! good luck and i hope this helps..Holly
— RNlvnCARSON
March 5, 2008
This may meet with some flames but here is what I discovered. I was
considered a "lightweight" with a BMI of 40 and my weight
stabilized @ about 6 months out. I am now 9 months out and have to be VERY
careful to not gain weight now. I believe this surgery was a gift from God
and I don't take it lightly. When I see the scale start to creep up, I
take that as a hint that things are starting to get out of control and plan
a fast. Usually only one day, maybe two depending on what is going on.
There are a lot of good books out on spiritual fasting (not starving
yourself for dieting and losing weight, but doing a fast to get back in
touch with yourself, to "reboot" yourself so to speak.) There
are different kinds of fasts (water & juice only, liquids only, abstain
from certain things, etc... it is something YOU plan that will work for
YOU. A commitment you make for 24 hours. We can do just about anything
for one day.) It helps to see how hungry you really are & to give your
organs a break. Although it can be difficult, I've found out that mostly I
am not eating out of hunger, but out of the things that got me morbidly
obese in the first place; boredom, habit, laziness...etc.. Most spiritual
lives have a place for fasting; Christian, Jewish, Muslim, Buddist, etc...
A book I am reading @ the moment is Fasting by Jentezen Franklin. He is a
little mystical, but I wanted some guidelines. I wanted to make sure I was
doing it "right" and not in my obsessive/compulsive all or
nothing way! Anyway, it was just a thought. I am in no way anorexic, my
BMI is normal. It is just something the Lord put in my path that seems to
help me keep my gift and get focused. If you want to chat feel free to
email me @ [email protected] or here @ OH. I still love to
eat and have to be careful.
We are all just trying to do our best and find our way. We all know it is
not 'easy' or we wouldn't have had to seek WLS.
— MAG
March 5, 2008
I don't think willpower has anything to do with you feeling out of control.
I don't feel like any bariatric program helps prepare anyone enough for a
life of recovery from overeating. It's an emotional disorder. Get yourself
to a good psychiatrist that can help you deal with any issues you may have.
I don't mean that you're crazy, just that there are probably a lot of
things that lead you to become over 100 lbs overweight that should've been
dealt with before surgery. It's not too late though. Work on yourself
emotionally and take charge of your life! You will make it! I can't tell
you the tremendous changes for the better I have seen in myself. I know
when I have the surgery that I am i the right place- body and mind. The
surgery is only about your body, not the mind. Good luck. Lynne E.
— minaque
March 5, 2008
I know exactly how you are feeling; PLEASE take my advice - call the
Hospital where you had your surgery, and ask to be connected to the
Registered Dietician. Speak with him or her, and asj\k if they can refer
you to a Counseler who specializes in counseling people with Compulsive
Overeating Disorder. Make an appointment and start seeing a Counseler on a
regular basis. Please do this, as it is a matter of emotional and
psychological eating, not just hunger. Best wishes!
— Gina S.
March 5, 2008
Hi Constance, thanks for writing. Girl, breathe! The honeymoon may or may
not be over, but the end of your wls journey is not over by a long shot.
Hang in there! Wls is a one day at a time journey. Don't consider that
the scale has not moved in 4 months. You give enough evidence in your
small paragraph to indicate that you are trying to cheat yourself out of
losing weight but not being faithful, so I think that is more of an issue
than the honeymoon period. Obesity is a head game, and surgery fixes the
body, but does not fix the brain. In support group this week our surgeon
said (again), I fix your bodies, not your brains, and just because you CAN
eat something, does not mean you SHOULD OR HAVE TO EAT IT! Constance, it
is a choice you make. Surgery is a tool, abuse it, you suffer the
consequences of that decision. You are an adult, and you choose, but don't
complain when you don't get the result you want, when you won't follow the
rules of the game. I don't mean to be tough, I just want you to know that
if you lose weight, it will always be about diet and exercise, and if YOU
choose to not do them, then you choose to stay still or gain weight.
Now,having said the tough stuff, I had a friend who had wls about 4 months
after I did. I lost about 2-3 pounds every week for a year, then a year
later lost another 10, then a year later lost another 10. She, on the
other hand struggled, and stayed the same for many months, but now, at 4
years out, she is much smaller than me. Her body took a different route,
and we both celebrate our successes. Our bodies know when to lose and when
to stop. Be faithful, fight for one day at a time, and then celebrate your
weight loss, no matter how much it is. Your excess will come off in due
time, if you are faithful, if you walk one day at a time, playing by the
rules (diet, exercise and water), and don't forget to have a good attitude
and celebrate your success, not just worry about what you didn't get,
celebrate what you did get! It makes a world of difference in your
outlook, your body and your mind. Every one of us fights the same battle
you have. I am here to tell you that you can choose to win. But the
choice is yours to make. Take care. Patricia P.
— Patricia P
March 6, 2008
no the honey moon is not over. you still have the tool so wrok it. learn to
eat 6 small portion meals a day so you wont gain weight. if your unable to
control it tell your dr. mine had gave me 2 months of diet pills to help
control mine and to jump start my weight loss again. i know what your going
threw . iam in the same boat as you. . read my pg w3hen you get time.
— yvettetas
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