Question:
I have no sexual desires, is this normal?
I have no sexual desires and I feel this is not normal and it may be linked to my overweight issues. I have joint aches that worsen when in positions during sexual relations that make me not want to be in that situation. Has anyone else had these same issues? Does anyone think that WLS will make this situation any better? — grandmasue (posted on January 4, 2007)
January 4, 2007
I have the same issues with my joints cramping up. I never made it to goal
so I really never saw an improvement in sex life. I rarely have sex with
my husband. I still weigh close to 300 lbs after losing 150 and gaining
nearly 50 back. But I can tell you when I first met my husband and weighed
a little over 200 lbs sex was never a problem.
— gerardlovesjoy
January 4, 2007
I have this issue and I have been diagnosed with arthritis since I was 8
years old. So now being 40 it has taken a major toll on my bones and
everything else. I am praying that losing 120 pounds will help me feel
good and not in so much pain.
Good luck with your journey.
Cira
— Cira S.
January 4, 2007
I had a very hard time with sex when I was 330 lbs. I had a severe back
problems that put me in bed for a couple of months and I couldn't walk more
than a 1/2 block without pain. Since losing 150 lbs., Everything is
different. I have the desire of when I was 16 and I am almost 60 years old
and still with the person I married when I was 17. I can move freely, walk
and my pain has been greatly relieved from having the surgery. I have
gone back to basics of protein drinks in the a.m. and light meal the other
two and feel wonderful now. I had a tendency to gain and lose 10 pounds so
back to the beginning. Did I say I was 5 years out now. Everything sure
fell into place for me and I hope they do for you. Take care and good
luck.
— Sherrie S.
January 4, 2007
I can only speak for myself, but I can bet there are others that agree.
With the weight loss not only can one move better they feel better about
themselves which increases the endorphins with in. As for the sexual
desires, it does come back. At least that is what I am finding out now
that I am going on 3 months post op. I still have about 50 pounds to go,
but I can tell a huge difference now. I have back, pelvis and joint issues
to deal with caused from an auto accident, and the added weight was really
hindering movement even in daily issues of walking, bending and even
standing. It just feels so good to have the passion and the desire
resurface.
— [Deactivated Member]
January 4, 2007
I have really limited sexual desire also and I'm sure it's mostly because
of the weight. My joints hurt all the time along with my neck. I don't
feel attractive or sexy in the least even though my husband tells me I am
all the time. The weight also makes me so tired all the time when it's
time for bed, I want to sleep not play. His biggest worry is that if I
lose the weight I will lose my breasts lol.
— KristineMarie
January 5, 2007
I CAN REALLY RELATE TO THIS QUESTION AND I DO THINK UR WEIGHT PLAYS BIG
PART TO IT. I'M GOING THROUGH MY WEIGHT MANAGEMENT RIGHT KNOW AND CAN'T
WAIT UNTIL I HAVE MY WSL. I WEIGH ABOUT 265LBS BUT I CAN TELL WHEN I'M AT
THAT 270 POINT BY MY SEXUAL ATTITUDE. I CAN CARE LESS ABOUT IT. I CANT
WAIT SO I CAN RUN MY HUSBAND AROUND THE BEDROOM SOME.LOL
— Vanessa Dates
January 6, 2007
Do you take any anti-depressent medicines? I do and I think it really
makes decreases the sexual desire. Hope that helps.
— Danita S.
January 7, 2007
I recently had WLS and one of the biggest reasons was because I am getting
married in 4 months and because of my weight I did not want to have sex
with my fiance anymore, I had gained about 50lbs in our 2 year
relationship. Nobody feels sexy when they are over weight and now I am 7
weeks post-op and lost 35lbs and still don't feel sexy. So it will take a
while even after the surgery to feel the desire to have sex again.
— angel19
January 8, 2007
Hi, I too have lost my sexual desires. Had 4 back surgeries which left me
disabled. But I'm not giving up on it. Well take that back, I kind of
have, but its because my husband has problems himself, but I'm still
looking to get back to my old self, and he can take a blue pill. lol... My
cousin had surgery and she said that her husband has to keep the blue pill
in stock, so look for a positive side and even if it doesn't, you still
feel great about yourself.
Lydia
— lbutts
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