Question:
Surgery Date scheduled for Dec 16th and scared to Death.
Hi everyone!! I have a date sched.But I am scared to death!! I am finding every reason in the world to not have this done..Why? I am so scared that Im going to Die on the Table and leave my kids Without a Mother..Am i normal? This thought Consumes my every wakeing Moment! Why? Iv never had surgery before but I know that this is Definatly what i want to do.But why am I so scared? HELP!!!!! — Alana T. (posted on November 13, 2002)
November 13, 2002
Hi, I know how you feel - I'm scheduled 12-6-02 for an Open RNY. I've gone
through a number of other surgeries, and even though I work in the
health-care field I still have anxiety. But I look at it this way - if I
don't have surgery I will end up with co-morbidities and face the
possibility of poor quality of life or even death. I want to be able to
have the surgery while I am still healthy before I end up having a surgery
that is related to my obesity, like coronary artery bypass, etc. Good luck!
I'll keep you in my prayers. :-)
— Debra L. H.
November 13, 2002
Hi Alana, Your fears are very normal. I am about to schedule a surgery date
and also have a few misgivings. Two years ago I had open heart surgery for
a bypass, but had only one night to anticipate the event after being
hospitalized after a test and told by my doctor that I had about 6 months
left if I did nothing. That was adequate incentive! Anyway, as they say in
the military, there are no athiests in foxholes. There are not many the
evening before surgery. If you are a religeous person, put yourself in
God's hands (and the hands of his instrument...your surgeon). After some
serious prayer the night before my surgery, I was given a feeling of peace
and acceptance of His will. That was all that was needed. My doctor who
recommended the WLS said that I could expect to add a year of extended life
expectancy for every 10 lbs I lost. That 100 lbs will give me another 10
years with my family (including a newly arrived grandson). Think of that
extra time with your children and family. It should help fortify you. My
prayers are with you. All the best.
— Bob T.
November 13, 2002
hiya alana, it's kate
{{hugs}}
were you able to find a wls support group in your area? i think it would be
very helpful to meet with other wls'ers in your area in person. i
understand your fears and it's normal...
courage is acknowledging your fear and walking through it...i think you can
do this. just take it one day (or one hour) at a time until your surgery
date...keep in touch with us...you'll be ok!
{{hugs}}
kate
open rny 6-14-01
pre op: 268lbs
goal: 135lbs
current: 126lbs
— jkb
November 13, 2002
Alana~ We have the same date! We can be surgery buddies - email me if you
are interested. I'm sooooooo nervous. I guess it doesn't seem real yet.
I was watching the Dateline thing last night and for a brief moment I
thought, 'I wish I could lose like that' - and then it dawned on me - duh!
I <i>AM</i> going to be losing like that. I'm scared of the
change, but I know it's something that I need to do. I just keep thinking
of what life will be like in a year -- no more back and hip pain, no more
being out of breath, no more ill-fitting clothes - yay! We are almost
there hon! We can do it together!
— Toni C.
November 13, 2002
Hi Alana,
You are having surgery the day before me!!! Like you I am excited and
scared... that is most definitely normal... would we be normal if we
were'nt scared? Keep your chin up and think positive!
Sheryl
— Sheryl W.
November 14, 2002
Alana,,,I hear ya!!! I was sooo scared to have this surgery, that I
cancelled it 2 years ago, and then went through with it 6 months ago. I so
regret cancelling,,,I have lost 125 pounds since the end of April, and I
feel so much healthier and happier. I have an 11 and 16 year old, and I was
also worried about leaving them, but I had to do this not only for me but
also them, so I would be around for them as they get older, and the way I
was going (345 pds), I was bound to start having health problems. I have
been a nurse for 21 years and have never sent a patient off to surgery who
did'nt come back to me. I was wearing a size 30,and now am into a 16. I
feel so much better about myself and get compliments every day. I am no
longer on any meds, and can walk, and do normal things with my family that
I could'nt before. This was the right decision for me, I just hate that I
wasted 2 years of my life because of being scared. Good luck to you, and
hang in there,,you'll do fine,,,Susie
— Susie R.
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