Question:
Is there anyone out there who changed their mind at the last minute and cancelled. .
...surgery the night before? I researched for an entire year. I was so positive that I wanted this. I got an earlier date so I took it. May 13. I went in and they hooked up the IV and I had all the meds except the "I don't care" drug. When the doctors walked in the room to take me down, my heart rate went up to 158 and my blood pressure went way up too. They gave me a choice of finding out what the problem was right then or going down to O.R. and trying to bring the heart rate down with meds. I said I'd rather find out what's wrong first. So I went upstairs for echocardiogram which was normal. I got a new date of May 20 and I did all the prep. I had an awful doubt and I was for some reason terrified. I was suppose to be at the hospital at 6 am and I called at 1 am and cancelled. I was physically ill because of the fear I had of this whole thing. I don't understand how I could be so sure of something and have such a sudden change of heart. What do you all think of this. Has anyone ever done this and then had it done later on? I'm so confused on how I feel. I wanted the results, but the process scared me silly. — lerli1 (posted on May 24, 2002)
May 24, 2002
If in your heart and mind you are not ready for this life style change, you
did the correct thing, do not beat yourself up over this, you took control
of what you needed at the time,
Only you and you alone will know if it is right for you,
I am 20 days Post Op and -31, I had complete peace in my mind on this
surgery, and new life style I am going to be leading. Had I had the fear
and uncertianty like you have, I know I would of also cancelled.
I wish the best of luck, and peace of mind for any decisions you make
Hugs
— Jeri P.
May 24, 2002
I think you made a wise decision cancelling if you were that scared at that
moment.You were not ready for this right now,or maybe not ever,but atleast
you cancelled before having any regrets.I am still in the "learning
stages",but am pretty sure that this is what I want.If I do have those
feelings that you described,I also would not go through with it.They say
that if it is right for you to have this,you will have some sort of peace
with yourself as you go into surgery.Whatever you decide to do,i'm sure
that there will still be alot of support here for you.......
Good luck!!!
— kim M.
May 24, 2002
oh honey.....i too was ready to be wheeled out and had the i dont care
med,but something inside wasn't right,so i went home. my surgeon asked me
to come to the support group she has for her wls patients,so i did. after
being with these people and hearing their testemonies,i then became ready.i
truly knew inside when i was ready,bt the best thing for me was the support
and knowledge that i recieved from the support group.
the truth is i felt that i was dying a slow death being fat,so i had to
take te chance and lord am i glad i did! i'm so much healthier and happy.
good luck in whatever you choose,but when it's time,you won't give it a
second thought......
— christeen M.
May 24, 2002
Lora, please don't feel bad or upset about your decision! If you felt
something wasn't right in your heart, you did the right thing. We've all
heard of people getting off of planes they didn't feel right. Perhaps that
day, just wasn't the right day.
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I did want to tell you that I was fine all the way up to my surgery day.
My mom and I dropped my daughter (who's 4th Birthday was the next day) off
at school. I gave her big hugs and kisses, and then drove off. I was
still fine! I got to the hospital, and checked in on the 6th floor, but as
I was walking to my pre-op room I started to ball uncontrollably! Of
course my mother started to cry too! She knew how committed I was to this
surgery, but she never saw me ecpress any fears about it! They started my
IV's, got all my vitals...I was a wreck! I kept begging my mom to take me
home, but she kept saying "Think about it. You have a good Dr., you
really want this surgery....". I didn't care, I wanted to go home!
They wheeled me down to the OR holding area and I was still crying...all
the way up until they gave me the happy shot! The nurse told my mom in the
elevator, if she says NO, they won't do it! Well, i would've said NO if I
could've stopped crying!
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Sorry to ramble so much!
All I have to say is that you made a very brave decision...I was too scared
to back out....yet too scared to go thru with it! I'm glad I did it
though.
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You'll know when the time is right. When you feel it is, then you can do
it! Good Luck and just take some time to do some soul searching!
— Kristin R.
May 24, 2002
5/24 If my surgery was tomorrow I would have to say I would change mind. I
do not know if Debra's death was WLS related but she was an AMOS and had
her surgery on 2/28/02 and I read this in our local paper this morning. I
have left a message for her pastor to call me back, I myself need to know
if it was related to to WLS.
Debra S. Howeth, 45, of Live Oak died May 21, 2002, at Rideout Memorial
Hospital.
Born in Wichita Falls, Texas, she was a Yuba-Sutter resident for 35 years.
She worked for National Heritage Insurance Co. in Marysville and was a
member of the Live Oak Assembly of God.
Survivors include two daughters, Meghan Howeth and Marisa Howeth, both of
Live Oak; her mother, Dorothy Howeth of Live Oak; two sisters, Beverly
Melton of Gridley and Donna Arms of Chandler, Ariz.; and three brothers,
Steve Howeth, Rick Howeth and Daniel Howeth, all of Live Oak.
She was preceded in death by her father, Daniel Howeth.
Donations may be made to the Meghan and Marisa School Fund, in care of Live
Oak Assembly of God, P.O. Box 248, Live Oak, CA 95953.
Services: Visitation will be from 4 to 6 p.m. Saturday at Holycross
Memorial Services. A funeral service is scheduled at 2 p.m. Sunday at the
Live Oak Assembly of God with Pastors Ray Shelton and C.W. Goforth
officiating. Private burial will be in Live Oak Cemetery.
— Lisa W.
May 24, 2002
I think you where right to cancel it. I am just trying to find a surgeon
now but I am scared to death I know this is what I want but am just so
scared of the complications not so much for me as for my kids what if
something happens how long will i be in the hospital so I decided to find a
doctor to do the lap band because it is less risky as far as I am
concerned. Good Luck
— concetta D.
May 24, 2002
Weight loss surgery is a HUGE decision, and many people have second
thoughts. I myself went back and forth on the issue thousands of times
before the surgeon actually cut me open. If you don't feel GREAT about it,
and you are not 100% certain that you want your digestive system
PERMANENTLY altered, don't do it. Wait a while, think about it, and do it
later if you're still thinking it's the right thing. If you're heart's not
100% in it, then this isn't the right time for you.
— Terissa R.
June 26, 2002
Hi,
I know that you did the right thing. If you have any fears or doubt they
will just intensify after surgery! I had surgery on 6/12 and came home 2
days later. I could not stop thinking about what I had done. I called the
Doctor and asked him to reverse it right away. He could not reverse it.
It is permanent. If I were to try to reverse it, it would be so much more
dangerous. Once, I accepted that I was able to stop having "buyers
remorse". Do what is in your heart. When you are ready you will
know. God bless you!
— Maria R.
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