Question:
Has anyone had any mood swings leading up to there surgery?
Hi guys. I want to know about peoples feelings right before surgery. I am feeling overwhelmed right now. I have been extremely b%&$#y lately. I have been driving my husband and everyone around me mad. I have been quetioning my reasoning for having surgery. I thank that its really starting to hit me now(the surgery) and I am starting to really freak out about it. I know that I need this surgery despartly but I am so scared. Is it normal to be feeling this way? Am I alone? Any advise on this will help out alot. Thanks! Surgery scheduled for May 29th — marian (posted on May 2, 2003)
May 2, 2003
I have been being b%&$#y lately as well. June 3rd is my date. I think
it is from trying to get everything done and in order before my time is
here.I have 3 kids that I home school. It is very hard to think of having
this done and recovery. I know everything will be fine.A little messy but
it can be cleaned later. I keep telling myself that.
— Autumn
May 2, 2003
Thank the good Lord that I am not the only one, but I think that I'm just
anxious, because I think that yet another issue is going to postpone my
surgery, today I found out that I have a slight bladder infection which
must be clear before May 20th by antibiotics, or it's off again. So yes I
am a little #$%&*% with my family, and it is driving me nuts, because
it is completely out of character for me to be that way, especially with my
family.But I can't seem to help myself, and what I have been doing is
taking some major time outs for myself, alone, and that seems to be working
for me most of the time...Good Luck and I hope that my suggestion helps....
— Tamauralee H.
May 2, 2003
I am also about one and a half weeks pre-op. About 3 weeks ago, I turned
into a real @#$#$%$ch!! It lasted a couple of weeks where I had terrible
anxiety, mood swings and crying all the time. My poor children :( But it
has passed thank goodness and now I'm just riding it out until surgery.
You are normal. I found it helped to go and talk to someone. I made an
appointment with my pastor and with my counsellor so I will have an outlet
for my feelings without taking it out on the dog! God bless you... this
will pass.
— Happy I.
May 2, 2003
Hi~ This was the "BIGGEST" problem for me the whole 2 weeks
before my surgery, that and I could only sleep about 3-4 hours a night. I
was so mean to everyone and snapped at anyone who just happened to be
around. Now I'am 5 weeks post-op and my family says I'am like a different
person. I'am happy all the time and I very seldom get mad anymore (the kids
really have to push me) I feel great! The biggest thing I've noticed is I
don't worry about being *fat* anymore which was an everyday thing. It's
like this huge weight has been lifted and I'am free of it now. I still have
alot to lose but it is going to come off and I know that. So yes everything
your feeling now is *normal*. Good Luck on your surgery and don't worry
this to shall pass!
— latrishanickle
May 3, 2003
This was my experience also until I made the decision to remember that I
knew this was the best thing for me, I had complete trust in my Dr and that
in a short time I would be on my way to being a real LOSER! : ) Once I made
peace with my decision I calmed down a lot. My 2 cents worth.
3 months out next week and down 60+ lbs!!! YES!!!!!!!!!! : )
— Peggy B.
May 3, 2003
This is completely normal. You're about to go through a life changing
operation, so ofcourse you're going to feel scared and be moody. Just go
over in your head why you did this, and how the benefits will outweigh the
risks. Know that you have support, and you will be fine. We're all scared,
it's surgery. But it can make your overall life so much better! Your
surgery date is 1 day before my 1 year anniversary- and I'm at my goal!
Goodluck to you!
— Lezlie Y.
May 3, 2003
I am having surgery May 19th and my mood swings started yesterday. All I
can do is cry and worry about dying. I hope I don't get b!tchy because my
mother-in-law is coming in to town today to help me out with my son while I
do pre-op and all of that stuff and I would hate to be a brat with her
here. But, I am emotional and worried. So, I think (hope) it is normal!
— Tami H.
May 3, 2003
Marion ... welcome to REAL life as a pre-op! You're being perfectly
normal. Even though I KNEW having surgery was the right thing for me (and
still know it, three years plus later), the time leading up to it was hell.
I was going to die. I was going to live, but be the one person in the
history of the universe that had this surgery and GAINED three hundred
pounds. My husband would leave me. My husband WOULDN'T leave me. I'd
lose my job. I'd lose my friends. I'd lose my hair. Well, I didn't die,
I lost the weight, my husband didn't leave, I lost some hair but got it
back, changed my job of my own volition, lost the one I got, got a new one,
and changed that one, and life went on. What you're feeling is NORMAL.
Peaks and valleys, darlin', right up to the operating room door. You're
scared, you're excited, you're standing on the edge of a new adventure.
Just know that this, too, shall pass. Good luck on the 29th!
— Cheryl Denomy
May 3, 2003
Welcome to the wonderful world of pre op anxiety!! Everything you are going
thru is very very normal. About a week before mine, I would be laughing one
minute, and cry the next. It was not pleasant. I'd catch myself snapping at
my husband, and had some pretty wild nightmares about dying, my own
funeral, and that my husband left me. I also would get the shakes, and my
mind would start raceing a mile a minute. I also felt that I was being
extremly selfish, and that if I did die, I would be leaving my husband
alone. It helped that we talked about it. I was having 10th and 11th
thoughts about it when they wheeled me into or. Look at it this way. You
have made a life altering decision to make YOUR life better. You have a
greater chance of dying in a car wreck than on the table. It will not only
improve the quality, but the quantity as well. The risks are well worth it.
I woudn't change a thing about mine. I'm 10 days out, and already lost 14
lbs. When you start getting jittery and nervous, set down and make a list
of the top 10 reasons you are having it, and keep repeating it to yourself
when you feel nervous and scared. Besides, anything worth having is worth
working for and thru. Good luck, and God bless!
— mellyhudel
May 5, 2003
I can vividly recall those times. At almost 3 weeks post, the time spent
preop jittering is still fresh. I was a basket case. Does it help you to
know that it's normal? It didn't help me one bit. Who cares if I was
normal, I wanted it to be over and not rear it's ugly head ever again. Now
that I'm post-op I hear that my situation is normal at this stage. Does it
make it any easier...not for me.
The best advice I would give to anyone who is remotely considering this
surgery is to have a heart to heart with your loved ones. Let them know
that they truly are loved and that you may experience some emotional issues
that may cause you to act unusual towards them. Hopefully they'll remember
that talk when the time comes and not hold it against you.
Good luck.
— Diane S.
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