Question:
restarting over
I feel like such a failure with this surgery. At work tonight one of my supervisor's came to the break room and for whatever reason she mentioned she was going to have weight loss surgery but was worried she could not stop emotional eating. I realized after all this time that is my problem. I had surgery June 01 and have lost 60lbs. Yes I feel much better but I am starting to feel depressed again because I can't lose more. I am starting to go to the gym after work at 2am with a co-worker...why do I wait for a year to see that things were not working for me... I don't binge or eat huge quantities but obviously eat more than I need....I'm wondering if there's any hope for someone like me. I have been exercising and watching what I am eating but I'm just stuck at the same weight and still a size 18.. — Mandy M. (posted on August 28, 2002)
August 27, 2002
Dear Mandy,
Im a little over 14 months post op, ive been what it seems like the same
size since December of 2001. I must admit at first my weight did melt off,
but I was very strict with what I ate, and was exercising everyday. I must
also admit I have been a little laxed about things lately, meaning I havent
been exercising like I use too. But I have given bread and soda up for
good, and I thought by now I would be a lot smaller then I am. Am i
discouraged , yes I am. Everyone around me tells me I look good, that I
shouldnt want to get skinny, cuz right now I look "healthy", What
ever that means. But my hopes for WLS may have not been realistic or im
doing something wrong. Right now im not sure what it is. I started out at
275lbs and right now I weigh about 160lbs, So I did lose 115lbs, but my
weight does go up and down every month, and I dont feel as good as I did 6
months out. My enegry level has dropped again, and im trying very hard to
make right choices, but I feel like all I do is eat all day. Im scared and
upset that it might lead me back to becoming morbidly obese again.I figured
Id be at about 140 or lower by now, and no matter what I do it seems like
Im stuck. And I feel like my window of opportunity is closed. UGH! Im
wondering right now if there is anything I can do to restart it. I just
wanted to let ya know you werent alone, and even though our weight levels
differ, its still a struggle. Good luck and if you get any good information
please pass it along. I could use the help at this point.
— Ann A.
August 28, 2002
I'm still pre-op, but wanted to first say that what you have accomplished
so far is wonderful and an inspiration to us pre-ops. The issue you bring
up came up in my psych evaluation the other night. Any 'emotional' eating
habits pre-op will still be there post-op. But don't beat yourself up
because at least you realize that this may be an issue. I'm sure that
support group folks, and our AMOS brothers and sisters can help with
solutions. I know this wasn't exactly an answer to your question, just
(hopefully) some encouraging words. God Bless.
— [Deactivated Member]
August 28, 2002
Hi. I just wanted to say that you really are doing well. Come on, you lost
60 pounds in less that three months! I'll admit that I've been feeling the
same way as you do right now. I think, why can't I get this weight off
faster. Than I remind myself that I've lost 75 pounds in a little under
four months. Before surgery, the weight would not have come off. I realize
that I have a disese. An illness that is healing, but not gone. You must
understand that things are going to take time. So far, you are doing great.
Keep up the great work. And I also think it's important to have a support
group. So if you don't have a group that meets at least every few weeks,
it's time to get one. They will motivate you and keep you going strong.
((Hugss)), Sarah
— Sarah K.
August 28, 2002
Mandy, I had my surgery in February of 2001 and only lost the first 5
months. I lost and regained the same ten pounds for the next year. I want
you to know that you can start losing again. I made some realizations about
myself and started doing things the right way again and I have lost 27
pounds since the beginning of June 2002. I don't want to make my response
too long but you can check out my profile and read my story and you can
email me anytime. I've been where you are, putting myself through mental
abuse because I felt like a failure... I never thought that the person who
abused me would be myself.
Hugs, Debbie Wolfe
— dream_small
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