Poor support system
It is major surgery and if you can have some help when you first get home, I'm sure that would be best. Have you considered having your friend and/or family members go see your Dr. with you? My mother was not happy about my decision to have WLS either, but inviting her to come to the Dr's office and ask any questions she might have did ease her concern and the tension. She wasn't excited about, but was doing better by the time I had my surgery.
Re: support... Support is going to be important in the long term, so if you haven't connected with a local support group, look into doing so as soon as you can. They can help you navigate the myriad of issues that will come up after surgery, including dealing with friends and family that aren't supportive. Of course, OH is a great place to come for support as well, it's important to get some face to face support if at all possible.
Wishing you all the best,
Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
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If that doesn't work, look to your friends for support. There has to be someone out there that understands. If not, I would let the doctors know that you might need some help after you are released from the hospital. Everything depends on what you have to do at home I would think. Do you have kids? Do you have pets? Do you live in an apartment on a higher level? I know I'm asking my grandparents to watch my dog for 8 days after my surgery as I live on a second floor apartment and don't think walking up/down the stairs with a dog pulling on me is the best thing to do right away.
You can take care of yourself as well. Just plan. Plan your meals...make sure you have enough stuff in your fridge and cupboards so you don't have to travel for a while. Have your protein sources ready, your shakes, milk, soy, etc. Ok, also remember to have things like TP. :) It's the little things we forget sometimes.
Keep coming back here...it's sooo helpful!
Maybe you can ask them to accept and respect your decision even if they don't agree with it. After all, it's your decision.
I would really try to have someone available to help out the first week or so.
If they are against it because the band failed, they should know it doesn't work often. It's not your fault and it doesn't mean RNY won't work.
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