I cant be trusted around food :(
Only 30% of RNYers dump, so the odds are significantly against you being a dumper from the very beginning (and some people who dump early out lose it to one degree or another down the road)... which is why we warn people not to COUNT on dumping to keep you from eating certain foods. Even some of us who DO dump only do it with a LOT of sugar.... way too many calories to ingest!
The problem is that a drug addict does not have to have drugs to survive, but everyone needs to eat!
Lora
14 years out; 190 pounds lost, 165 pound loss maintained
You don't drown by falling in the water. You drown by staying there.
i borrowed this from theworldaccordingtoeggface:
Don't trade what you want most, for what you want at the moment.
today i was able to not buy a cookie at panera, i was sweating and salivating but grew a small piece of willpower, said this to myself twenty times at least,
i won't eat that cookie, i want to be healthy!
I like food that tastes good with satiety (which is always usually high calorie , high fat, high carb food). However, I hear stories about folks pre-surgery eating until they couldnt breathe, or until they threw up, or just eating for the heck of it. That was never my problem, so I was always unsure how the surgery would affect me. I'd eat 2 to 3 square meals a day , and rarely snacked between. However, the meals were greasy, an fatty, and full of carbs (ie. greasy pork fried rice more than a cup with some sort of greasy meat on top and a sweet drink). Well when you factor this in 2x's a day plus breakfast, it was easily over 3,000 calories a day. My body over the years began to store weight. Gain 10 pounds a year, and in 10 years, you have gained 100 pounds. The worst thing I've ever done to my body was to "crash diet". It ruined my metabolism to the point that I couldnt even a normal calorie diet and lose.
How surgery has affected me most thus far, is that I do very very minimal sugar. Whereas previously I'd literally put up to 12 sugars in a cup of coffee and this is every single day. Now, I'm not sure whether I am a dumper or not, and I never really wanted to push the issue. I SUSPECT that I'll dump, but I have eaten quaker maple and brown sugar oatmeal and when you factor in the sugars from the milk 12 and the cereal 9 it totals up to 21 grams of sugar, and I haven't dumped thus far. I haven't gone over 21 grams of sugar though because I don't wanna be sick. Also, I can never sit and eat a whole bowl of the cereal, so Im not even really getting the 21 grams in yet.
I typed a novel, mainly venting for myself. I think that it's good to know what your triggers are, and perhaps you will need some therapy to find that out. You won't be able to stay away from food so the best that you can do is not keep really suductive offending foods in your home. And just remember how bad you felt physically when you were 100 pounds heavier.
Because my issue was with drinking sweet drinks, I worry about losing my dumping affect. I think I dump because I once shoved a piece of starbucks coffee cake in my mouth ( which ended up getting stuck / lodged) and I threw it up so I wasnt sure if I was dumping or if making a desperate post-op move made me ill. I ate that Starbucks coffee cake to see if I could dump, and then changed my mind after barfing my guts out and havent eaten anything sweet again. I felt I'll for some time afterwards so I think I do dump.
It is so true what you said about the cultural differences and what often happens once people to come this country. We supersize so much in this country.
Although I agree that not ALL obese people need counseling, all of the studies indicate that the vast majority of people who become morbidly obese DO have emotional or psychological issues that contribute to their obesity and would greatly benefit from some counseling to address those issues.
Lora
14 years out; 190 pounds lost, 165 pound loss maintained
You don't drown by falling in the water. You drown by staying there.
It is clear that the poster of this thread acknowledges a psychological connection and lack of will power with food, so what you talk about is very relevant to her particular story in regards to there being an emotional / psychological connection. But I still think that people have to be careful not to let other's write their story for them. I also believe that the majority of people can benefit from counseling or support groups whether or not they believe that they medicated with food or not. I think Weigh****chers understood this concept for many years, if you have support and can identify with someone who has a similar story to yourself I think you can be successful in supporting each other. Although Weigh****chers always worked to take the weight off of me. I'd always go back to old ways at some point, so I needed additional help to keep me on track. Hence the surgery for me.
I've also been eating a low carb diet. So I have learned to make things with almond meal, flax meal, and coconut flour. I also use carbquick sometimes. I use lots of davinci and torani syrups to change up the flavor of things.
It's much easier to say no when you have to fix it from scratch too. So instead of say having cookies around. Find a low carb cookie recipe and when you want a cookie make one. There are low carb recipes out there for a single cookie or a single muffin or a single cheesecake.
Make one of those when you are craving something.
Counseling also helps. Find someone you can trust and let them help you. This can be an addiction for some of us. Not everyone who is obese is a food addict but there are those who are. It's not a shame to get help. It's something to be proud of. You realize you needed it and got it.
Just the way I look at things. I hope you get this figured out and wish you the best of luck.
Its a challenge.. everyday is an opportunity to be and do better. Everyday there are temptations.. some days I am great others not so much.. I dont beat myself up.. I just try to do better..
Today, I had only one protein shake. My goal was to have 3.. but one is better than none..
Is there anyway you can be kind to yourself? Instead of being mad and disappointed try.. getting a massage, pedicure, a walk, treat yourself to a nap, go for a stroll, buy some new music to be motivated by, pray or meditate, journal, Long soaking bath, hot cup of tea, a good book..Positive motivation goes farther... and does wonders for the self-esteem.
Its okay to fall off the wagon.. seek support.. as long as you're still in the fight that is all that matters.. reward yourself for all the efforts and awareness you have..
My weight easily fluctuates between 175-185..I dont dump either.. guess what .. its fine.. Its difficult during the Holidays and cold weather.. I promise you this that you are stronger than you realize.. no need to beat yourself up..
Here's a big hug from me to you..(((HUGS)))..
Michelle