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LOL!   I have Vivian blocked so wondered where the heck it all came from ...    Thought it was one of those "Bless your Heart" posts!

Always a bit hinkey when someone starts posting to me in particular, about God and Ministry LOLOLOL!

Girl, you crack me up!  I give you props.........you have NEVER forced your beliefs on anyone (well other than your WLS ones!!-and they are RIGHT ON!!).

Glad to see you posting........it has been a bit quiet and sterile around here........we needed some fun!

Oh, and I just saw your "bathroom" response to my post the other day-hehehe!  That is when I realized something is "broken" at OH and notifications are not going out about post responses..........

    (You probably won't see this for three weeks when OH gets round to sending you the notification.   I have to say, I am feeling particularly SPECIAL as I am getting e-mails from OH ...

I was trying not to keep responding to negative with negative. I am not forcing anything on you. If you don't like what I post, sweetie, please move around. You don't pay my bills, wash my clothes or care for my child. How about this, since you have nothing but insults coming out, keep it. I don't need and did not ask for you to kick me while down. MOVE AROUND!

I know during my pre-op diet that I went about 3-4 days without a BM. On day 4 I said to my wife that I was considering a  trip to the hospital.

I am amazed that someone who claims to not have a BM in a month would be surprised with hearing some very strong language on this forum. That is simply insane!

We don't just need the flowery words, sometimes we need our butts kicked to get back on track. I do not believe any surgery, no less what we have gone through is for the thin skinned.

I for one am grateful knowing that we have a great resource here, and people that are not going to blow smoke up my you know what.

People gave you honest advice. A lot of it was harsh because it is important for us to be our own advocates as patients. The reason people here were tough on you is because they don't want you to end up seriously ill.

It's really unfair of you to paint the OH community with one brush because a handful of people gave you advice that you either deemed too difficult or unmanageable. There are many, many people on here dealing with financial and family pressures. That is not to dismiss your problems---it is horrible that you lost your home, and I hope that you and your daughter find solid ground again soon. That said, you want to be there for your daughter in the first place, and you can't do that if you end up in the hospital with a serious problem. Take care of what is going on with your intestines before it becomes life-threatening, please.

Is it going to put you in debt? Probably. Is it worth it to save your life? I sure as hell think so.

And whether or not you intend to deter others from coming here for advice, that is exactly what you are doing by writing this kind of post. This is a community for support, and I do not appreciate it being degraded because you received advice that was harsh. I'm sorry if you thought that coming here would mean an easy at-home solution to the problem, but what you are dealing with genuinely sounds dangerous. Please take it seriously.

If you would let some harsh words from one person upset you so much that you would give up the support of an entire board, then maybe internet support groups/boards are not for you.  I wish you the best (and some thicker skin).  I also hope the ER was able to help you with the constipation issue.

Lora

when you put your business out in public, you can't control what'll come back to you. what i saw in that post were people who actually cared for you, a stranger, and gave you strong advice, for your own well being. if you don't care to be cared about, well then you can take your toys and go play elsewhere. but if you stick around, you'll learn alot from some great people. 

I'm sorry you have been through so much. What you can't do though is tell others what to say or how to react. What you CAN do is decide to accept the help\response or ignore it. You can control you......it's difficult to inflect the tone into a message or each person can read it differently. Sure a few comments were "strong" BUT I read the tone as CONCERN not others trying to beat you up or knock you down.

If you feel you want to leave then that is your decision. What you will lose though is a community of a WEALTH of experience and caring.

So I just went back and read the thread.

You know , it's terrible about your house and I imagine you are under a lot of stress but it's just really dumb not to have gone to a DR. or somewhere if you've had no bowel movement in a month. I can't really say it any nicer than that.

It's too bad you're leaving. You could really benefit from this site.